breakups

When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.

Emotional Abuse
Love is a major part of life and the world grows based on love interests between a man and a woman but majority of the time, we select the wrong partners and end up wounded and hurt in the process.
By Ngozi Mbonu6 years ago in Humans
The Breakup
Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend. We were laying in his bed about to take a nap and I was stoned out of my mind and I looked at him and realised that I didn’t like him anymore. So I left. I just got up, put my shoes on, called my uber and walked out the door. An hour or so later he noticed I wasn’t coming back and sent me a text. We mutually decided that I was too much and he was not enough and decided to go our separate ways. I wish I could say breakups were that easy but they are only that easy at first. After a nap I was no longer stoned and all of my feelings came to the surface and I made the number one mistake you can make in a breakup. I texted him. Big mistake. I think that the best way to put it is that he was less than nice to me about the situation and said all sorts of things to make me feel small and it worked. My head quickly filled with all kinds of self consciousness and self doubt. It’s exactly what he meant to do and I let him. It is important to remember that during a break up, you both are in control, just not of each other. You are you and they are them. I have created rules for myself revolving around this concept that has really helped me remember who the fuck I am and once I began following these rules I realized how truly easy it can be to move on without skipping a beat.
By Tiffany Crone6 years ago in Humans
The Best Ted Talks About Heartbreak, Grief and Loss. Top Story - May 2020.
For those that have read my previous articles, know that this past few months hasn't been easy for me or my heart. During my time of grieving, I would often find myself googling what I should do and what other people have done to mend their broken hearts. Some of what I found was useful and some not so much. I'd loved watching and listening to Ted Talks, and fortunately, I found a number of them that were super helpful and made feel less alone in terms of the pain that I was going through. So if you're going through a heartbreak, I hope this list provides you some solace.
By Virag Dombay6 years ago in Humans
To Rebound or Not to Rebound
For quite some time now I have tried to move past a connection with someone who means a great deal to me. I have tried to do this in the healthiest way possible: by focusing on myself and healing what was broken (emotionally & mentally). I have reflected on the mistakes I made with him and myself, and how I can avoid repeating them again with new relationships.
By Zally6 years ago in Humans
Young Girl's Struggle
During every person's life, they experience different struggles, whether it be heartbreak, family problems, drama, school, etc. My story involves all of those struggles at once. It started at the age of 16 for me. I thought I was in love with a boy who was hopeless and did not know what he wanted out of life. He was the kind of boy with a smile that made a girls heart melt and added adventure to anyone's life that he entered. It was like a movie scene when we fell for each other. We were the same person, from music taste to activities we enjoyed. Unfortunately, without him knowing what he wanted from life, meant that he did not know if he wanted me in it. He broke my heart time and time again. From breaking up with me consistently over stupid little fights to cheating on me with a couple other girls. Finally the time came that I thought I was done falling for his stupid games and we were over. A few weeks later we ended up next to each other at a concert together, where he looked me in the eyes, kissed me, and then followed behind me while we went crowd surfing. Everything seemed absolutely perfect, like everything was falling back into place. Turns out, it was the exact opposite.
By aball6 years ago in Humans
I was vulnerable
I was ending an 8 year relationship filled with drugs, control, jealousy, manipulation, mental and physical abuse. My ex was 17 years my senior. I was 22 when we met, he was 39. Mentally, I left long ago, but never had the courage to do so physically, until now. My head was continuously buried in my phone every chance I got while working a new job as a housekeeper at a 4 star hotel. My ex was constantly sending degrading, manipulative text messages trying to scare me into not leaving. Things like, you’ll never find anyone like me, no one is going to love you like me, yada yada yada!! I would do anything to get away from this situation, I hated him!
By Annise brown 6 years ago in Humans
to the boy who made me feel impossible to love
To the boy who broke my heart for the first time, To the boy who still lingers in my mind like an ocean wave that comes and goes,
By hannah irelan6 years ago in Humans
Don’t Kill Your Boyfriend. This Is How to Deal With Him If He Is Cheating on You.
For today’s storytime, I have to share with you the real life story that a friend told to me. I remembered this story and just how crazy it was, and so I had to call my friend Funbi to recount the story for me so I can share it with you. Without wasting anytime, let me jump right into the story because it’s such a good one!
By Jide Okonjo6 years ago in Humans
Choices
We all make choices. Every day, we wake up, we choose what to wear, what to eat for breakfast, what route we will take to school or work, and we just go with it. We make these choices, and we never really think about how they will affect us later on. Some of them will have very little effect on our lives. Some will bring us great joy and change our lives for the better. And of course, there will always be the ones that hurt us in the end. The hardest part about this is that we rarely know where these choices will lead us until we’ve already reached the final destination. Even if we do take the time to think about every possible outcome of a decision, we still won’t know what’s really going to happen. And let’s be real here-- no one actually does that anyways.
By Brandis Ajay6 years ago in Humans
Hunger at the feet of new love.
Today I´ve decided to let you go. To abandon the idea of us as a couple. I´m learning to look at your eyes and believe that this is happening.. we are no longer we. We have left each other but still feels like I´m waiting one more time for you to fill my lungs with air…but no, it seems like if this was a desert storm holding through this glimpse of failure, distress, and sadness. We can never go back to where we were. Am I all of me with you? I do not wish for my soul to beg, I should be your choice and you should be mine. But this modern way of loving confuses me, as I think you are confused too. We are now two adults too afraid to stick around so now I am alone with myself… whatever that is.How nice it felt to be a part of your choice for a while…
By Melina Janczuk6 years ago in Humans
but it ended.
People often associate those in toxic relationships with someone who is weak. Someone who doesn’t have enough self-respect to walk away. Someone who is tolerating a lot less than they deserved.
By Alexis Danielle6 years ago in Humans
Twin Flame Separation
If you are reading this, then hopefully you read my first story about the origin of twin flames. You may be experiencing a separation yourself, or just trying to prepare yourself for the possibility. Either way, I hope the following information provides some guidance and understanding to what you are going through.
By Angela Love6 years ago in Humans