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Strong Women Are Not That Strong. Top Story - August 2017.
Almost a decade ago, in my first year as a Psychology undergraduate student, a colleague of mine said to me, "You are good at picking up the big fights, but you never go for the little ones."It took me a long while to realise what he really wanted to say. Some years later, I had a little glimpse: I was always ready to save others but I would put myself at the very bottom of my "people to save today" list. I could easily move mountains for someone else, but I rarely could engage in something that would lead me to my own happiness. Actually, I would never even think about that detail.
By Vanessa Dias9 years ago in Humans
Be a Citizen of the Earth
This is not an article about disapproval of religion; in fact, it is the opposite. I hope that one day in a world that is torn apart by cultural and religious differences, that we can all come together and save the planet that we are all so dependent on.
By Katelynd Vermeer9 years ago in Humans
My Girlfriend Just Dumped Me by Leaving a Note After 5 Years Together!
Dear Sybersue, I just came out of a five-year relationship that ended very abruptly! My girlfriend just blindsided me with a note saying she wasn’t happy, then packed her bags and left before I got home from work!
By Susan McCord9 years ago in Humans
Positive Side of Divorce
Doesn’t it make you smile when you see videos of people who go all out with elaborate marriage proposals? Nice, isn’t it? For about 30 seconds, you think about the day of your wedding and how special you felt. No? Okay. I'll speak for me. I don't think of my divorce—right away—as I’m being happy for a couple in the early stages of their lifetime of love.
By Bonnie Simpson9 years ago in Humans
What is Love?
What is Love? Love is a Balancing Act. It is the greatest answer to life’s “What ifs.” It’s a person’s understanding or acknowledgement, of the risk of investment. Even when the return looks to be, overwhelmingly, defaulting to true pain. It’s the mutual respect of both.
By Ryan C. Hicks9 years ago in Humans
I Come First
When growing up, you get taught to do things for others, make others happy, and not to do this and that because of what other people might say. I mean Albert Einstein says it himself: ''Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.'' It is good to do things for others and to make a positive impact on others and the world, but what about me?
By JAPPY .9 years ago in Humans
What is Coercive Control?
Your new relationship is great! He really seems to understand you, he wants to be with you all the time, when he isn’t with you he’s always texting, he wants to know all about your life, friends, family and life. He’s charming and loving, he gives you flowers all the time. The relationship moves really fast and you find yourself moving in with him.
By Clare Scanlan9 years ago in Humans
The Truth About Couples Therapy
Having a relationship tends to be a wonderful thing to have whether it's romantic or platonic. Every type of relationship has ups and downs, little bumps in the road. Therefore, we need to face the fact that all relationships have issues. Some are big, some are small but, all issues big or small can eventually lead to the destruction of your relationship. We as humans tend to fixate on relationship issues and a lot of the time turn small issues into big ones.
By JazzyFay West9 years ago in Humans
Stopping the Self-Enabling Cycle
In today's world, people tend to look at outside influences and not ourselves as reasons for failing at something or continuing to put ourselves in the same negative situations or bad relationships. Although it is not our fault when people do bad things to us, what is our fault is what we do or do not do to overcome what has happened. When we do little or nothing to help ourselves, in reality, we are continuing to have these problems dominate our lives.
By S P9 years ago in Humans
Life's a Beach...
I love the beach. There is something so amazingly calm about the feel of the sand between your toes and the sound of the water. Calm isn't something that I have honestly had much of in my life. I keep saying life is like a roller coaster full of ups and downs twists and turns. As much as everyone's roller coaster is different they are all the same.
By Claudia Sanders9 years ago in Humans
Pros and Cons of the Single Life
They said being single is like the end of the world. You are alone as you watch couples going down the street hand-in-hand, giggling, cuddling and even showing public displays of affection. It's such a beautiful thing to have, but you can live without having this bond.
By Destiny Abercrumbie9 years ago in Humans
When Stuck on Stupid Becomes a Choice
Many of us place emphasis on not shaming or unnecessarily hurting other people's feelings. While this is a generally good approach for everyday life situations, there are some instances where ignorance is not always innocent. When it manifests as willful ignorance, it should be considered a form of aggression, including passive aggressiveness.
By Fannie LeFlore9 years ago in Humans